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What if there were no wrong choices?  Okay sounds a little bit extreme.  I mean stepping off the curb into the pathway of an oncoming bus certainly seems like a wrong choice.  So yes, perhaps it can’t be as absolute as that.  Every choice has consequences, some that we won’t see until further down the road.  The thing is that not making a choice, or “choice paralysis” is still making a choice.  The power then in the idea that “There are no wrong choices in life” is not the truth of the statement.  If we were to examine the statement from the truth of the matter, it would only lead to endless debate.

Another way to relate to the statement there are no wrong choices is to think of it as a possible way to live.  If your life is about creating, then a wrong choice while not preferred did move you along the pathway.  As the creator of your life, it revealed to you something that you didn’t want.  It gave you critical information that you might never had discovered but for making what seems like a wrong choice.

And so, I think the real cause behind “choice paralysis” is we don’t view ourselves as powerful creators.  Any choice would only be perceived as wrong or scary if you were afraid that you would be stuck with what you created.  The real skill to master is being a powerful creator in your life.  In fact, you already are a powerful creator of your life so it might better be said that the skill to master is being an aware creator of your life.

Your life right now – the good, the great, the bad and the ugly – is a result of what you created for yourself.  And right now, you have your eyes set on a future relative to what you have.  One way to strengthen your ability as a creator in the future is to take stock of what you created, and then to own all of it as your creation.  And yes, I mean all of it.  Own every last nook and cranny as a result of your creating even if you’re sure it’s someone else’s fault.

If you cannot own where you are today, bad choices and all, then your mind knows that you will not own where you’ll be a year from or five years from now and that’s what prevents you from being a powerful creator in life.  You will hesitate.  Creating you life requires that you be daring.  And daring doesn’t just have to mean quitting your job (although it could mean that) or starting a totally new career (although it could mean that).  Being daring could just be telling your spouse how much you love them or telling your child how proud you are of them.  It could be thanking your parents for the job they did or it could be apologizing to someone for being a jerk (even if you’re sure it’s there fault).  It could be finally taking piano lessons or learning to speak Italian.  Being daring comes in all shapes, sizes and forms.

If you can learn to include as a result with all the other things you want in life, the result called “developing myself to be an aware powerful creator of life,” then it shifts everything about the way you live.  Your task is no longer just to get the prize (although it absolutely is to get the prize), your task is to develop yourself over time to be more and more powerful of a creator, which includes all facets of being one including making daring, decisive choices.  Every choice – right or wrong, daring or wimpy – gives you an opportunity to practice the art of creating your life.  And like any skill that you practice, you’ll get better at it and better at it and better at it over time.  Your life will become about creating what’s next knowing that if it’s not what you want, no problem.  All there is every to do in life is take stock of what you created and then ask the question, “Now, what do I want to create?”

Have you ever asked yourself the question, “Why am I thinking the thoughts that I’m thinking?”  You know by now that I am all about the thinking.  Our thinking is the source of our lives, and we don’t fully appreciate the value in finding what I’ve referred to as the “edges” of our thinking.   When you find an edge, it allows you to see that the way of thinking you’re engaged in is actually very dynamic and yes, complex; but it is also finite and more importantly, your thinking is not YOU.  It’s just one finite way of thinking.  Finite like a chair is finite or a car is finite.  Finite meaning once you can see the whole of it; you really can stop engaging in the thinking if it no longer serves you.  You begin to see that mostly you’re not really thinking, you’re regurgitating thoughts you’ve already had, and thoughts that others have had before you.

Currently, I’m in a 6-month self-development program working on various aspects of my life.  One of the tasks asked of us is to sift through our lives and find every wrong we’ve ever done, every lie we’ve ever told that we haven’t owned up to. Basically, we’re looking for every thing there is in our lives that we need to confess.  This, of course, is not a new concept.  You could get this same advice by attending an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting (which this is not) or sitting in a therapist’s chair (which this is not).  The point of the exercise is to go back and complete those things that have happened in the past so that you can truly own them and leave them where they happened - in the past.

So right now, as you read this, your mind is likely starting to pull out and dust off some of those wrongs you’ve committed in your life that you haven’t owned up to.  And so while it wasn’t articulated this way, your mind is responding to a question, something like, “What wrongs haven’t I made right in my life?”  Consider this, your mind is always responding to a question.  When you go into your closet in the morning to get dressed, your mind is answering the question, “What should I wear today?”  When you’re trudging into work, pissed off that you have to go, your mind is responding to the question, “Why do I have to go to work today?”  The edges of these “whole” ways of thinking are bound together by some fundamental question.

Mostly in life, we are more interested in answers than questions.  Problem is if you’re not interested in the questions, you might be dilly-dallying with answers that are making no real difference in your life.  So for instance, confessing can certainly be a powerful thing to do, but if the intention of the exercise is to confess so that the past is left in the past, doesn’t the asking of the question itself contradict the intent.  Before you read this post, you likely were not even thinking about your past wrongdoings.  Before I focused your mind on that question, your past wrongs likely weren’t on your mind.  Certainly, not all of them!  Absent my question, those misdeeds were residing exactly where they happened – in the past!!!

And so there is nothing inherently valuable in sifting through to find all of our past misdeeds just as there is nothing inherently valuable in struggling in life or inherently valuable in any of the thoughts you are having at any given moment.  There is only what you’re thinking and the impact that your thinking is having on your life.  So you might find yourself thinking about your relationship with your spouse and how upset they make you and what you’re going to do about it, and “Dammit, we must come to some resolution about this issue.”  Have you though ever questioned whether you need to spend your life engaging in that line of thinking at all?  Have you ever questioned whether the problem that you absolutely believe must get solved actually needs to get solved?  That it actually deserves your time?  Have you ever considered that what your spouse did wouldn’t be an issue in the first place until you thought it so?  Until you raised the question, “Why did he do this?”  In other words, we are really good at beating people (or life) up with our expectations and our questions, but we never stop to really consider that we are the one’s holding the expectation.  Without us, there would be no need for beating because there would be no one holding the expectation.  There would be no one asking the question.

My point is that mostly in life you have very little control.  You don’t have control of whether the sun shines.  You don’t have control of what the economy is doing.  You don’t have control of your boss’ personality, but the one thing you have absolute 100% control over is your thoughts.  And don’t interpret the above as some sort of strategy like “Oh, he’s saying confessing is bad, and we should never confess” or “He’s saying that you should never confront your spouse about something.”

No, he’s not saying that.  What he is saying is you have a finite number of heartbeats to have on this planet.  You have a finite number of moments to live and thus you have a finite number of moments to have thoughts.

You get to choose how you spend those moments.

You get to choose the thoughts you think.

We all get to choose the questions we ask.

It’s a new year.  It’s a time for reflection on what we’ve accomplished.  It’s a time for thinking about what’s to come, a time to think about what we are going to create.  We all know that predictably most resolutions will get broken.  And if that’s the case, then why do we do it at all?  Why do we take the time to imagine the possibility that the coming year can bring?  Is there something to be learned just from the act of making resolutions?  I believe that there is.

Imagining what we want to have happen this year gives us an opportunity to touch a space that unfortunately we only seem to allow ourselves to experience but once per year.  That space is the future.  Think about it.  You ponder where you want to be a year from now.  You imagine the possibility of your life.  You envision the possibility of a year.  You become inspired by thoughts of a slimmer body, more money, or a more loving relationship.  You find yourself filled with joy – the joy of creating something new, creating what you want.  Then when this part of the process is done (or at least that’s how we think about it), we set off to do the work of making our futures come true.  And for most of us, about two to four weeks later, not only is that experience of joy and wonder a distant memory; so too are our resolutions.

What’s happening here?

To fully appreciate this dynamic, I’d like you to imagine that you are sitting in a chair.  To the left of you is an apple tree and to the right of you is a yellow bicycle.  If I said to you, “Fulfilling your future requires one simple thing of you.  For the next year, for most of the time, you must keep your eye on the yellow bicycle.  Sometimes you can look at the apple tree, but for most of the time, you must maintain your focus on the bicycle.”  Putting the ridiculousness of this scenario aside, if that’s what it took to fulfill your future, the task would be clear and simple.

With respect to your future – your New Year’s resolutions – the water gets muddied.  You create your future (yellow bicycle) and then once that’s done, you spend most of your time with your attention focused on your past (the apple tree).  And the real kicker is you actually think that you’re spending most of your time with your focus on your future.  You think that you’re focus is on your future because you’re working so damn hard to make it happen.  You think you’re attention is on the yellow bicycle, but it’s not.  You’re engaged most of the time telling the old story about the old life that you’ve already created wondering why it’s so damn hard to have those things you wanted.  Wondering where the inspiration of your life has gone.

With regard to our resolutions, most of us spend some relatively small amount of time at the beginning of the year telling the new story of our lives.  “I want to have a strong healthy body and weigh 150 pounds” (yellow bicycle).  “I want to have a fantastic job that brings me alive everyday” (yellow bicycle).  “I want to have a loving intimate relationship” (yellow bicycle).  Then we spend the rest of the year telling the old story of our lives.  “It’s really hard to not eat pizza, but I guess I’ll have to suck it up” (apple tree).  “I just can’t find time to exercise and plus, I really hate it” (apple tree).  “There are no jobs out there for me.  Oh well, let me send out some resumes.  Not that it’s going to make any difference” (apple tree).  “Men/women suck.  There are no good ones out there.  I’m tired of dating” (apple tree).

So what can you do differently?  Simple.  “I want to have a strong healthy body and weigh 150 pounds.”  That’s the first line of your masterpiece.  Now write me the rest of the story.  Write me the story of how it’s going to go in January, February, March and so on right through the end of the year to 150 pounds.  But not the story of how it’s going to go based on your past.  Tell me the story of how it’s going to go based on your future.

“What?  How am I supposed to know how’s it going to go based on my future?”

Exactly.  You don’t, and that’s really the point.  We don’t know how the future is going to go, but we live like we do.  And since we live like we do know, if you don’t write another story; if you don’t write the story you want, then your past (the apple tree) will be the only one you’re left with.  It will, by default, become your focus and the only story you’ll be able to tell, and you pretty much know how that story is going to go.

So yes, make those resolutions, but this year, tell the whole story.  And not just once, tell the whole story again and again and again.  And keep telling it until the new story (just like the old story did) becomes your life.

All that’s missing in your resolution process is the rest of the story!

The conversation is growing.  What does that mean … really?  Have you ever noticed that certain things in your life happen pretty much naturally, and others don’t?  By naturally, I don’t mean they happen without effort, I mean you just do them without giving them much thought.  Walking is a natural action.  At some point, driving becomes a natural action.  And it’s not just about natural action, there are things that are just part of how we live.  In many parts of the world, there isn’t even a light switch or faucet to turn on, let alone the expectation that a light will go on or clean running water will flow.  You only notice the light when it doesn’t go on.

“The conversation is growing” is an acknowledgement of the full creative process of life.  Albeit not always this linear, the creative process flows generally from thinking to action to structure.  You have an idea.  You take action on that idea, and the action results in a structure or thing.  It’s not typically a step-by-step process, but generally when you look at everything in your life, it all on some level resulted from thought.

It all began as a conversation.

Our Primary Change Model

In our culture, our primary change model is that if something isn’t happening that we want to happen, then we must take action even if by force.  If there’s not peace somewhere, send in the troops.  If what’s showing up is a higher number on the scale than we want, then “Just do it!”  Get your ass to the gym.  Stop eating those nasty foods.  What’s grossly overlooked is the thinking that lies behind the result; the thinking that lies behind the action.  We put all of our attention on the result that’s showing up in our faces, but give little notice to the thinking that led to that result in the first place.

Growing a conversation is about going to the source of our creation – our thinking.  It’s about beginning to realize that if what we want is peace in the world and what keeps showing up is war, then the conversation for war is still stronger than the conversation for peace.  We need to grow the conversation for peace.  If what we want is abundance but what is showing up in the world is predominantly hunger and poverty, then the conversation for hunger and poverty is stronger than the conversation for abundance.  We need to grow the conversation for abundance.

In personal examples, if you weigh more than you desire, then the conversation for “fat” is stronger in your life than the conversation for “thin.”  You need to grow the conversation for “thin.”  If you’re looking for a job and not finding what you want, then the conversation for “there’s no jobs out there” is stronger in your life than the conversation for “gainful, satisfying employment.”  You must grow the conversation for “gainful, satisfying employment.”  If you are alone and want someone to share your life with, then the conversation for “alone” is stronger in your life than the conversation for “lover.”  You must grow the conversation, “lover.”

Another Perspective

Another way to think about this is to imagine a big circle drawn on a piece of paper.  Now imagine the circle is filled with the “contents” of your life, so the circle is filled with you car, your house, your job, your spouse, and your kids.  The circle is filled with the things you can do like walking, talking, listening, and swimming.  The circle is filled with the things you like to do and the things you don’t like to do.  Every bit of your life is in that circle.

Now, imagine that everything you want but don’t have exists outside the circle.  Our default change model tells us that if you want something that exists out the circle, you need to muster up enough force and energy to burst through the wall of the circle as if the circle itself is some static entity.  “No pain, no gain” has become our mantra, but this model doesn’t tell us the whole story.  Another possible model for change is rather than using force; instead use thought (the beginning of the creative process) to make yourself stronger and stronger and stronger so that the circle itself expands in such a way that what’s outside the circle becomes included in your life.

For example, a child doesn’t learn to walk by deciding one day to muster up enough force to burst through the circle.  At some point, a child develops the awareness of “walking” as a possibility and he keeps growing the circle until it’s big enough to include “walking” in reality.  What has the circle grow is the child’s thinking.  He keeps his focus on “walking.”  The child is studying “walking.”  The child is imagining “walking.”  The child is dreaming about “walking.”  The child does not sit around brooding over the fact that he can’t walk.  The child is not complaining to his parents or other baby friends,  “My life is so incomplete because I can’t walk.  Whoa is me.”  We don’t say to the child, “Suck it up.  No pain, no gain.”  No, the child is going through a very natural process of creativity.  I’m not suggesting there aren’t moments of angst for the child when he tries to stand up but just cannot do it.  Still, at some point, when he realizes that he can’t yet do it, he doesn’t internalize the failure and say to himself, “I’ll never walk.  I’m such a failure.”  No, he turns his attention to a toy to play with or his mother’s warm hug.  He turns his focus to things that bring him joy.  Things that make him feel good.  Things that make his feel stronger.  And then when he becomes aware again of “walking,” he watches and learns and imagines “walking.”  He continues to build the strength of that image, the strength of his desire until at last the day comes when he takes those first steps.

Contrast this to our everyday experience.  Think about the amount of time you spend looking at the contents of your circle, seeing the conditions you don’t want, and then focusing most of your attention on the fact that you don’t weigh the right amount, your boss sucks, you’re alone or there are no jobs out there.  Then, with all your focus and energy on how it is, you try to muster up enough energy and force to go racing from the center of the circle and burst through the edge.  Most of the time when you do this, you are sent reeling back to the center of the circle feeling more and more like the life you have is it.  You sigh, and think, “Perhaps it’s just the way it is for me.  Maybe this is as good as life is going to be for me.”

This default change model leaves out most of the data.  Our model of “No pain, no gain” or “Just do it” is based on the moment that the child struggles to take that first step and we say, “The child broke through the circle.”  And perhaps in that moment, the child did break through a little, but what we discount is all the learning, imagining and focus that made the circle big enough to be just on the edge of “walking.”

We discount that all along the way, a conversation was growing.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this?

Is the idea of “growing a conversation” some new age, philosophical tactic?  Is it some new technique for having what you want in life?  Does growing a conversation really matter, and does it matter to you?  These are all questions that I’ve found people I work with wonder about.  The answers to these questions are simple: No.  No.  No, and No.

“The Conversation is Growing” is not some new age technique.  Most everything that human beings have created on this planet that exists today was once a conversation.  The car, the skyscraper, the computer, romance, your spouse, your house – all of it – once existed only as a thought.  There was a time when all you could do was talk about your home because it didn’t exist in physical reality.  There was once a time that people could only talk about the idea “cell phone” because “cell phone” didn’t exist in physical reality.  The life you have today is a result of what you talked about “yesterday”.  The life you’ll have “tomorrow” will result from what you talk about today.  Of course, it’s not only what you talk about.  Certainly action is part of the creative process, but how can you take action if you don’t create the action itself first in language?  And what will be the nature of that action?  Will it flow from a conversation for having what you want or will it flow from a conversation of struggling to have what you want?  These are all answers that flow from the conversation you’re having, from the conversation you’re growing.

This is why the answer to the question, “Whether growing a conversations matters?” is no.  Whether you are growing one is not up for debate.  You are!!! You can decide that it matters whether you’re growing a conversation and that will be the conversation you’re growing.  You can decide it doesn’t matters whether you’re growing a conversation and that will be the conversation you’re growing.

Your life doesn’t result from what you’re not doing; it only results from what you are doing.  Creation is an affirmative act.   “Struggling to find love” is not the same conversation as “finding love.”  “Buying the home of your dreams” is not the same conversation as “Struggling to buy the home of your dreams.”  And “Creating a way of life where good things happen naturally for people” is not the same conversation as “Working hard to create a way of life where good things happen naturally for people.”

So before you run out there gung-ho to take action in your life, it would serve you to do a check and ask yourself, “What conversation am I growing … really?”

Now that question matters.

When people ask me what my book A Life Worth Living is about, I tell them it’s a book about how changing your life will save the world.  Typically, when we hear someone talk about “changing our life” or “saving the world,” just one can sound overwhelming.  “Change my life?  My god, I barely have enough time to live my life.  And forget about saving the world.”   Imagine if “changing your life” meant experiencing more joy and ease now.  Imagine if it meant experiencing more happiness and doing more of the things you want to do in life today.  Imagine if the road to these things wasn’t paved with struggle and effort; instead, the road itself was a new road in and of itself – one designed not to just get you to more of what you want one day, someday, but actually designed to give you more of what you want today.

“Alright Bill, sign me up.  But … I don’t see how me having a better life will the change the world?”  When most of look out at the world, we see a lot of struggle and effort.  There seems like so much to overcome and we almost forget that we are a part of the world.  It seems so big, so daunting and the natural response is to question whether our life actually makes a difference.  We’ve become so used to reporting on the state of the world, we forget to take into account how we arrived here today – by many, many people – people just like you – making choices over time of how to live.  What’s missing isn’t another Jesus, or a Mohammed, a Mother Teresa or a Gandhi.  And it’s not because their message was inadequate, it’s simply because there are more of us than them.  To change the world will take the same thing it took to build the world we have – many people living life a different way.  If you can take a step back and see the world as an outcome of design, then you can begin to see that what’s missing is a new kind of expert.

We’ve come to believe that all of the wonderful things we want to experience in life come as a result of hard work and struggle, and it never seems to occur to us that thinking that way has resulted in us becoming experts in the “field” of hard work and struggle.  We are hardcore experts in the field of overcoming that which we’ve created, but that expertise has come at the expense of becoming experts in the things we really want.  It’s kept us from devoting our time, energy and focus to becoming experts in the “fields” of love, joy and fulfillment.  We know how to struggle to find love, but do we know how to ease into love?  Or flow into fulfillment?

The road to becoming a new kind of expert is not a mystery.  You become an expert in these things just like you become an expert in any field: you study it.  The biggest barrier to our education is the barrier between “being and experiencing these wonderful things” and then “living real life.”    “I’ll get to learning something about love, but right now I have to deal with reality.  I have bills to pay.”  Unfortunately, who you are in your “real life” is who you are.  Each moment of life you demonstrate your expertise.

So to begin, examine your life and ask questions like, “What does my life teach people?  What does my life say about what “fields” I’m an expert in?  Am I an expert in how great life can be?  Or does my life demonstrate an expertise in making life a struggle?”  Once you understand where you expertise lies, then you can choose.  “Do I want to continue to be that type of expert?” and if the answer is no, then it’s simply a matter of asking the question, “How do I begin today?  How do I begin today to be the type of expert, the type of person that I really want to be?”

Ask new questions and you will become a new type of expert.

There’s all this talk today about the Law of Attraction or the Secret.  One of the key points in this body of work is that you attract things into your life based on your level of “vibration.”   Basically, what this means is if you’re feeling good, meaning having feelings of joy, enthusiasm and aliveness, you are focused on and attracting what you want.  If you’re feeling bad, meaning having feelings of sadness, resistance or depression, you are focused on and attracting what you don’t want.  For me, the jury is still out on whether there is this universal law of attraction.  Fortunately though, I don’t think it matters because I think the idea of “feeling good” is a useful concept to explore in the realm of design.

My book A Life Worth Living looks at life from the perspective of design.  It’s unique in that it doesn’t teach you a set of techniques to design your life; instead, it teaches you to think like a designer so that you can begin to design anything in your life.  Feeling good clearly has many benefits associated with it. When you feel good, you’re more in flow with life.  You’re more creative when you feel good.  You’re more open to possibilities and less attached to outcomes.  You’re more accepting of yourself and others.  For those reasons alone, it’s a good thing to develop the practice of feeling good.

From a design perspective, feeling good is relevant because for the most part, it’s why you’re designing what you are designing in the first place.  Think about it: why do you want more money?  Why do you want the perfect spouse?  Why do you want to be able to travel the world?  Because in some way shape or form, you want life to feel better than it does today.  You want to be happier.  You want to be more alive, more engaged in the living of your life.  Yes, you can make more money in your life by struggling.  The cost to that thinking is that once you have the money, chances are you still don’t know how to feel good.

We live in this fantasy that one day when we reach a particular destination, we will magically become these better people.  Problem is that once we get to the destination, we quickly realize that we don’t know how to be better people because we didn’t spend our time educating ourselves.  We don’t know how to be happier.  We don’t know how to be more generous.  We don’t know how to be more caring toward others.  We know how to get the things that are supposed to make us feel these things, but we don’t know how to be those people we dream of being when we arrive at our destination.  And so we are left with in this experience that perhaps something is wrong with us or something is wrong with life rather than just seeing our failure for what it is – a gap in our education.

When we design, we design holistically.  We don’t just want the million in the bank; we have visions of how life will be and feel when we have the million in the bank.  When we plan a wedding, we are not just planning a list of activities.  We are designing an experience.  We are designing how we want to feel on that special day.  When we plan funerals, we are designing a solemn, sacred experience.  We are creating the space to say goodbye to someone we love.  We are designing an experience inside of which we can honor the person’s life.

How we feel is part of the equation, and yet, often times when we set out toward a goal, we set aside how we feel as irrelevant.  I’m not suggesting that how we feel should win out at the expense of building what it is we want to build.  I’m simply saying that it’s time we included it as part of the equation.  It’s time to expand our knowledge base to shift from only answering the question, “How do we build __________?” to answering questions like, “How do we built it while feeling good?” or “How do we build it generously?” or “How do we build it while be caring toward others?”  By answering these types of questions, we’ll not only be building the things we want in our lives, we’ll also be “building” ourselves to be the type of human beings that we dream of being, and that’s a creation worth investing in.

For each of us, whatever the overall level of satisfaction we experience in our lives, chances are there is room for growth.  Chances are you want more.  Chances are you want more joy in your work, more love in your relationships, chances are you have bigger dreams that you want to fulfill, and chances are there is a bigger difference that you want to make with your life.  Regardless of what you want in the future, today your life is in some current state.

Today, if you rate your life overall a 6 (on a scale of 1 to 10), then it’s a 6.  Most of us have been taught that to find happiness the game of life is to move our 6 to a 10.  In my experience, this is not the most efficient way to create more happiness in your life.  Why is that?  The answer is actually quite simple.  First, trying to take a 6 and make it a 10 puts off the joy until another day.  The old, “I’ll be happy when….”  You don’t have to cheat yourself out of the joy of creating your life.  You can enjoy the ride now.  The second reason it’s not the most efficient way to create more happiness is you’re trying to make your life into something it’s not.  A “6” is a “6”.  A “10” is a “10.”  Period.  You cannot change a 6 into a 10, anymore than you can change a car into a boat, or a dog into a cat.  All you can do is create a 10.

To end up with a life that’s a 6, you thought like a 6, you held the beliefs of a 6 and you took action consistent with the thinking of a 6.  Given who you’ve become to date, it couldn’t have turned out any other way.  Some of you will think this is bad news or use this as more evidence that something’s wrong with you.  In fact, just the opposite is true.  This is good news; it’s really good news.  Honestly, it’s great news!  It means that your life didn’t result because there’s something inherently wrong with you.  You life resulted from your thinking.  Period, end of story.   I don’t care what’s happened to you in your life, your life resulted from your thinking.  Until you can fully own that you are the responsible for all of it, every nook and cranny of your life, you won’t fully be able to create what you want.  You’ll just be stuck trying to make a 6 into a 10, and you know how that goes.

Taking ownership of your life, declaring that you’re the author of all of it is not an act of burden.  It’s an act of freedom.   Fully owning your life gives you tremendous power because until you do, you mind is just going to keep fighting with you.  It’s just going to keep telling you how wrong he is or she is or it is or you are.  When you take ownership of it all, your mind quiets.  It sort of stops and says, “Well, alright then … what’s next?”  And when that happens then you truly are free to move on from what you’ve created (a 6) and put your focus where it belongs … on creating a 10!

Hey Everyone!  My book A Life Worth Living has been out since April 15, 2009 and so far, the reviews have been great.

Daring Adventure Life Coach Tim Brownson wrote a wonderful review in which he “highly recommended” the book and called it a “paradigm shifter.”

It’s Write Now says the book “poses some thought provoking questions” and Fearless Dreams found that the questions I raise in the book will “stay with you long after you’ve turned the last page.”  

I wanted to write a book that would make people think deeply about life, and it seems these reviewers agree.  My thanks to the reviewers for taking the time to read and appreciate my book.