No Wrong Choices

What if there were no wrong choices?  Okay sounds a little bit extreme.  I mean stepping off the curb into the pathway of an oncoming bus certainly seems like a wrong choice.  So yes, perhaps it can’t be as absolute as that.  Every choice has consequences, some that we won’t see until further down the road.  The thing is that not making a choice, or “choice paralysis” is still making a choice.  The power then in the idea that “There are no wrong choices in life” is not the truth of the statement.  If we were to examine the statement from the truth of the matter, it would only lead to endless debate.

Another way to relate to the statement there are no wrong choices is to think of it as a possible way to live.  If your life is about creating, then a wrong choice while not preferred did move you along the pathway.  As the creator of your life, it revealed to you something that you didn’t want.  It gave you critical information that you might never had discovered but for making what seems like a wrong choice.

And so, I think the real cause behind “choice paralysis” is we don’t view ourselves as powerful creators.  Any choice would only be perceived as wrong or scary if you were afraid that you would be stuck with what you created.  The real skill to master is being a powerful creator in your life.  In fact, you already are a powerful creator of your life so it might better be said that the skill to master is being an aware creator of your life.

Your life right now – the good, the great, the bad and the ugly – is a result of what you created for yourself.  And right now, you have your eyes set on a future relative to what you have.  One way to strengthen your ability as a creator in the future is to take stock of what you created, and then to own all of it as your creation.  And yes, I mean all of it.  Own every last nook and cranny as a result of your creating even if you’re sure it’s someone else’s fault.

If you cannot own where you are today, bad choices and all, then your mind knows that you will not own where you’ll be a year from or five years from now and that’s what prevents you from being a powerful creator in life.  You will hesitate.  Creating you life requires that you be daring.  And daring doesn’t just have to mean quitting your job (although it could mean that) or starting a totally new career (although it could mean that).  Being daring could just be telling your spouse how much you love them or telling your child how proud you are of them.  It could be thanking your parents for the job they did or it could be apologizing to someone for being a jerk (even if you’re sure it’s there fault).  It could be finally taking piano lessons or learning to speak Italian.  Being daring comes in all shapes, sizes and forms.

If you can learn to include as a result with all the other things you want in life, the result called “developing myself to be an aware powerful creator of life,” then it shifts everything about the way you live.  Your task is no longer just to get the prize (although it absolutely is to get the prize), your task is to develop yourself over time to be more and more powerful of a creator, which includes all facets of being one including making daring, decisive choices.  Every choice – right or wrong, daring or wimpy – gives you an opportunity to practice the art of creating your life.  And like any skill that you practice, you’ll get better at it and better at it and better at it over time.  Your life will become about creating what’s next knowing that if it’s not what you want, no problem.  All there is every to do in life is take stock of what you created and then ask the question, “Now, what do I want to create?”