Does “growing a conversation” matter?

Is the idea of “growing a conversation” some new age, philosophical tactic?  Is it some new technique for having what you want in life?  Does growing a conversation really matter, and does it matter to you?  These are all questions that I’ve found people I work with wonder about.  The answers to these questions are simple: No.  No.  No, and No.

“The Conversation is Growing” is not some new age technique.  Most everything that human beings have created on this planet that exists today was once a conversation.  The car, the skyscraper, the computer, romance, your spouse, your house – all of it – once existed only as a thought.  There was a time when all you could do was talk about your home because it didn’t exist in physical reality.  There was once a time that people could only talk about the idea “cell phone” because “cell phone” didn’t exist in physical reality.  The life you have today is a result of what you talked about “yesterday”.  The life you’ll have “tomorrow” will result from what you talk about today.  Of course, it’s not only what you talk about.  Certainly action is part of the creative process, but how can you take action if you don’t create the action itself first in language?  And what will be the nature of that action?  Will it flow from a conversation for having what you want or will it flow from a conversation of struggling to have what you want?  These are all answers that flow from the conversation you’re having, from the conversation you’re growing.

This is why the answer to the question, “Whether growing a conversations matters?” is no.  Whether you are growing one is not up for debate.  You are!!! You can decide that it matters whether you’re growing a conversation and that will be the conversation you’re growing.  You can decide it doesn’t matters whether you’re growing a conversation and that will be the conversation you’re growing.

Your life doesn’t result from what you’re not doing; it only results from what you are doing.  Creation is an affirmative act.   “Struggling to find love” is not the same conversation as “finding love.”  “Buying the home of your dreams” is not the same conversation as “Struggling to buy the home of your dreams.”  And “Creating a way of life where good things happen naturally for people” is not the same conversation as “Working hard to create a way of life where good things happen naturally for people.”

So before you run out there gung-ho to take action in your life, it would serve you to do a check and ask yourself, “What conversation am I growing … really?”

Now that question matters.