What creates a transformation?

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There are undoubtedly many answers to this question.  Here’s one way that tends to go unnoticed:  You create a transformation by declaring possible what doesn’t seem possible to you.  You say what you want authentically without apology or resistance.  This may be hard to swallow especially if you’re thinking that you’re not even sure you know what you want.

Consider that you do know what you want.  You always know what you want.  Look at your life, are there things you have in your life right now that you don’t want? It’s only possible to know that you don’t want them because you have a reference point for what you want.  If you have a dissatisfying marriage, you know you want a satisfying one.  If you have a job you hate, you know you want a job you love.  It’s really not rocket science figuring out what you want.

So why does it seem so difficult?  In our culture, not having what you want has become the norm so we forgot that in order to have what you want, the first thing you have to do is ask for it.  You have to declare, “I want ________ (whatever it is that you want).”  Instead of asking for what we want in life and creating it, we engage in all these really odd behaviors consistent with a race that believe they can’t have what they want.  For example, instead of declaring what we want, we bitch and complain about how it is.  Or instead of creating what we want, we try to fix, change or manipulate the situation or others involved so it will somehow magically be what we want.  Some of us live lives of quiet desperation just hoping someone will save us, or worse, hoping for a quick, easy death.

I mean think about it.  If you have a piece of cake and you want a slice of pizza, there isn’t anything you can do to make that piece of cake into a slice of pizza.  There’s no magical, mystical cake into pizza transformation machine.  More importantly, you know that if you want a slice of pizza, then go get a slice of pizza!  Yet, in these other areas of life, we somehow ended up thinking it worked differently and so we spend our time trying to make people or situations into what they’re not rather than just creating what we want.

So yeah, transformation is created by asking for what you want.  Period.  Creation doesn’t end there of course.  You still have to actually create what you want, but the great thing is rather than live that life of quiet desperation or hope; you live a life of transformation.  When you make a declaration of what you want without apology, resistance or even knowing how you’re going to accomplish what you’ve declared, you step out of the world of “it’s not possible” and voila, transformation occurs.